Raising Stick-to-it Kids

"Pearles" of Wisdom - Part 1

2012-01-20T10:54:00.003-07:00

pearl (noun) something precious or choice; the finest example of anything: pearls of wisdom. (www.dictionary.com)

My husband's grandmother was named Mildred Pearle, but she was known as Pearle.

Sam and Grandma Slaugh - 100th Birthday Celebration, 2002

Born in 1902, she saw much and learned a lot. Living to be 101 years old, she left a legacy of faith and strength to her posterity. That legacy included "Pearles" of Wisdom - quotes and sayings to abide and live by. For her 100th birthday in 2002, a family member compiled 100 "Pearles" of Wisdom, a little booklet for her posterity to remember her by. As I was looking through paper work the other day, I ran across this memento. In reading through it, I was touched by her wisdom and her depth. She had a keen ability to see a greater perspective and encouraged all around her to live by truth. I felt impressed to share these "Pearles" in a series of posts. May you and my posterity benefit from these treasures. May they help us all Stick-to-it!

My five oldest children in 2002 for Grandma's 100th birthday.

1. Don't count the days - make the days count.

I love this! What a great reminder to make each day matter. In working on my fitness goals, this really pertains. Don't waste time counting how many days I've been to the gym; rather, get there and make it count. Don't wish your children to be out of a certain stage; rather, enjoy every minute of it.

2. Rules don't lock you in - they lock Satan out.

This is a fabulous way to explain to your children that rules and commandments don't chain us down, but they protect us from evil.

3. Attend your meetings - Don't wait for six strong men to carry you to church.

Maybe I'm slow, but I didn't get this one so I had to call my mother-in-law to ask her. When would six strong men carry you to church? When you've passed on and they're carrying you to church in your casket for your funeral.

4. Life is a grindstone. Whether it grinds you down or polishes you up depends on what you are made of.
It depends on your choices and your attitude, too. What will you make out of your life?

5. The difference between a steppingstone and a stumbling block is in the way we use them.
Will we let it the stone enable us or the block stop us?

6. None of us is entirely useless. Even the worst of us can serve as horrible examples.

This just makes me laugh! I'm sure we've all been one of these horrible examples at one time or another.

7. Opportunities are often missed because we are broadcasting when we should have been tuned in.
As my husband says often, you have two ears and one mouth. Use them accordingly. Listening - a virtue that is golden.

8. Pray as though everything depended on the Lord, and then work as though everything depended on you.
Amen!

9. What on earth are you doing for Heaven's sake?
Read this one carefully. If you just read it quickly, it sounds like something one would say when they're perpelxed by somebody's actions. However, look at it again. What are you doing on Earth for Heaven's sake? What am I spending my time on? Where is my allegiance? How am I furthering God's purposes?

10. Give God what is right, not what is left.
Definitely a pearl!

My favorites? I love them all but I especially like #4 and #5. They compliment each other. Yes, life is a grindstone but are you going to let it grind you down or polish you up? Are you going to allow the stepping stone to carry you forward or will the stumbling block stop your progress. I also like #9. It is a thought-provoking question, hidden in day to day language. When you change your perspective, you can see a new view. So many times our earthly view is clouded by worldly distractions, but when we look at life differently, Heavenly things tend to matter much more.

Grandma Pearle, you are truly a gem! How we miss you! More "Pearles" to follow...

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

No More Diapers

2012-01-16T09:56:00.001-07:00

"No More Diapers....No more Pull-Ups"

A Declaration by my 3-Year Old

Just so you know, I cannot stand the term "Potty Trained". First, I hate the word, potty. I do not want my three year old to shout out in the restaurant, "Mommy, I have to go potty." I have taught my children to say, "I need to use the bathroom" or " I need to use the restroom." So, when it comes to training them to use the bathroom and not use a diaper anymore, what do you call it? Bathroom trained? Restroom trained? It just doesn't sound right. We've defined it as "No More Diapers."

My 8th child can now declare, "No More Diapers. No More Pullups." Wow, now that's something to give myself a pat on the back for. How about a hot fudge sundae? No, I'm trying to cut out the sugar so we'll stick with the satisfaction of no more diapers which equals no more money spent on diapers, no more stinky diaper changes, and no more carrying around diapers. However, I'll always carry around wipes. That is a necessity, no matter how old your children are.

As I've worked on "No More Diapers" with eight children over the past 17 years, I've learned a lot. This tends to be a sensitive subject for many people, so please know, it's not meant to be offensive. This is my opinion so take it or leave it.

1. There is a perfect window of opportunity for No More Diapers. There is a click that turns on in the brain when children register understanding. It's at a different age for all children. You need to wait for that to occur before you even try or you will just be full of frustration. I don't even attempt to put my child on the toilet until I sense that the light bulb has turned on. How do you know? There are signs: the child tells you she's wet or messy, she wants to watch other people go, she takes off her own diapers and gets up on the toilet without you knowing, etc. Some of those behaviors are copy-cat...she just wants to do what older brother or sister is doing but the understanding may not be there yet. You know your child best.

2. I use the diaper until their training is complete. To avoid frustration on the part of the child and the parent, keep the diaper on until they're trained. Don't put the child in underwear until the child goes several days without having an accident. Talk and talk to the child about only going in the toilet, not in the diaper. Once you're confident that the child's ready for underwear, leave the diaper on.

3. Provide an incentive. I used skittles for my last child. Every time she went to the bathroom, she received a couple of skittles. It was very exciting for her and she was happy to go every time I suggested she use the bathroom. Another child liked money so I gave him a dime every time he went. At the end, he went shopping for a new toy. Whatever you choose, make sure it's special for only this event. I did not give her skittles at any other time. If she forgets about the skittles, great! They are for a short-term purpose anyway.

4. For me, it's easier to wait until they really get it, and then it goes quickly. I noticed for months that she woke up dry so I started putting her on the toilet every morning and she would go easily. One day, I just decided, "We're doing this." It took a week. During that week, she went once in her diaper. She started telling me when she needed to go so that was another sign of success. I did not once get frustrated because there was nothing to be frustrated about. She did not feel any stress. She just needed guidance and consistency because she already knew what to do. Once I made the decision, I had to stick-to-it! If she says she has to go, she has to go. Always give the opportunity and never second-guess. There's no turning back so go with it!

5. The family has to be on board, especially Mom. If Mom is not "prepared", it's not going to work. When I finally got my act together and was mentally ready, the process was smooth.

6. Be enthusiastic and excited when they have success. Use big expressions and hand signals. My enthusiasm includes, two thumbs up, a big wide mouth of surprise and a, "You did it!" Now, if I don't do that she says, "Mommy - do this." She opens her mouth wide and puts her thumbs up. I guess she likes the attention. She also likes to say, "You can do it" when it comes to wiping. Oh, thanks for the privilege.

7. I do not let my two or three year old wipe their own messy bottom. I cannot stand the thought of fecal matter all over my child's back or bottom, on the toilet, on their hands, etc. I would rather wipe their bum every time for a year+ until they really can handle it. They need to be taught to fold the toilet paper, wipe, fold again, wipe, etc. I know this is too much information (thus, no photos) but I'm trying to leave a manual for my own kids when their children are ready for No More Diapers.

8. The less traumatic the event, the easier it will be and the less likely the child will have accidents and night-time mishaps. This is only my opinion but as we've had stress-free, no pressure training, I can count on one hand the times each child wet the bed. Other tips for night-time: no drinks one hour before bed, go to the bathroom two or three times before bed time, if the child wakes up crying or fussing in the night, take her to the bathroom, put a diaper on the child at night until you're confident the issue is resolved, and pray for success with your child.

Watch for the signs, pray for guidance, and encourage and love your child. It will come and then you'll be shouting, "No More Diapers!!!"

Super Sorting Pie

2012-01-14T19:59:00.003-07:00

One little, two little, three little apples

Four little, five little, six little oranges

Seven little, eight little, nine little bananas

Ten little fruits in the pie!

Kids are entertained, my oh my!

I love finding a product that teaches and entertains. With toddlers around, this combination is crucial. I saw this product on Amazon.com and it looked to be just the thing to keep my sweetie "pie" 3 happy while I read with little girl 7 or buddy boy 5.

Learning Resources - Super Sorting Pie

What a fun product for learning hand-eye coordination, color matching, counting, and sorting. Interchangeable cards allow for switching it up to sort by color, number, or fruit type. The large pickers are perfect for little hands and even better, includes TWO pickers for two "pickers" (fruit, that is).

It's a twenty minute activity (hopefully more) of hands-on fun for little people. Not only do they practice their colors and counting, but pair it with some toy dishes and they enjoy pretending to serve food, eat food, and clean up (or is that wishful thinking?). Let's just hope they keep them on the dishes and out of the mouth.

Two little cousins having fun sorting and sharing

At our house, there is no such thing as lone play time. Someone is always around to share in the fun. This is a perfect product to practice cooperation, sharing, peacefulness, and getting along. I like the focus on healthy eating, too. At least the fruit part!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Make the Decision and Give it your All

2012-01-13T09:14:00.001-07:00

Oh, extracurricular activity.

Sometimes, I really murmur at you.

The time away from home hurts.

The stress of it all weighs heavily.

The money associated is a strain.

But when I see the outcome...I forgive you and thank you.

I know I've written about this before, but I cannot overstate that children in modern society are overwhelmed and over-scheduled by the beast we call the "Extracurricular activity." Families are burdened financially and end up activity-rich and quality time-poor if not managed very carefully. Yes, my children are involved in some extracurricular activities, but we are selective and give much thought to every new idea that presents itself.

Despite my occasional murmuring, once the decision is made to participate, I am full of support and encouragement. The extra hours, time away from home, financial sacrifices, late night hours catching up on homework become so worth it when you see the outcome of the hard work. This is especially true with musical theater. The memories made and the talents developed cannot be measured. Seeing your children up on that stage brings pure joy and satisfaction. It is just worth it!

Not only do we as parents give encouragement, but I strive to teach my children to do their best, no matter what they're involved in. If they make the decision to participate, work your hardest, show your stuff, be supportive of others, be self-governed, show respect for your leaders...give it your all!!

I am proud to be a stage mom. I went to the dress rehearsal and all four performances of: Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream Coat. I cried at the end of the final performance...tears of joy for a fabulous experience; tears of sadness for the experience coming to an end. So glad we have the pictures, the music and the memories! This became a family experience: all the children learning the songs, certain children practicing Elvis moves, little girls being like their big sister with their dance moves and steps. It was the talk of the family for the months of September and October. Not only was it their production, it was our production.

And what a production it was!

Pre-show: Naphtali's wife and Pharaoh

Naphtali and his cute girl!

Sing it, girl!

Purple and white and pink and orange and BLUE!

We are just 11 brothers...

Go, Go, Joe, Go, Go, Joe

Ahead of your.....TIME!

What a gorgeous Egyptian girl!

"Seven, beautiful, ears of corn..."

Pharaoh is in the Building!!

"Help me, I beg of you."

"Oh-oh, yeah!"

Fix that hair!

Checkin' out the girls...

Sister's reaction to brother. Love it!

Awesome Judah! "Oh-no, not he...."

The Joseph Cast

Our Family...OUR performance!!

Oh, "Joseph"....you will always be a part of our family!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Love Begins

2012-01-12T09:28:00.001-07:00

My Definition of a Good Movie (in no particular order):

Family values

Clean language and dress

Interesting plot

Recognition of God in our lives

Fun humor (but clean)

I do not hesitate to watch it with my children

Keeps my attention

Quality acting and cinematography

Focuses on overcoming or succeeding

Brings my family together

Some action and suspense

Shares an uplifting message

Gives me a break from the craziness of life

Provides an excuse to eat popcorn and treats

When I find a movie that includes all of the above, I have to share it.

For anyone familiar with the Love Comes Softly series, this is a must see. If you have not heard of nor seen the series, check it out! It's available at Amazon.com. The original movie, Love Comes Softly, is about a father named Clark Davis who loses his wife and is left with a daughter to raise on the frontier. Meanwhile, Marty (expecting a baby and just arriving in the area) loses her husband in a freak horse accident. Clark asks her to marry him so he can take care of her and she can take care of them. Yes, it sounds strange but you just have to see it.

Love Begins is the story of the young Clark Davis, how he meets his first wife, Ellen, and how he develops into the faithful man he is in Love Comes Softly. This movie is romantic, suspenseful, funny, plot-rich, extremely family friendly, and clean. My children loved it (even the boys) and we have enjoyed sharing it with others. I enjoyed this story because it shows a man of responsibility, maturity, hard work, and respect - all traits I want my boys to develop and that I want my daughters to look for in a future spouse. It displays the principles of forgiveness and second chances - traits I want all of my children to understand and apply to their lives and that help us realize the Lord's forgiveness of us all.

Valentine's Day is coming up...consider this beautiful movie to celebrate the love in your family.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

"For the Pore"

2012-01-11T08:31:00.002-07:00

It sits on the table year after year;

Not filled with candy or treats, for fear

of little hands taking and eating it all!

In just minutes I'll hear that dreaded call,

"It's gone, Mom", the empty boot sits still.

So, what shall we find to grant it a fill?

The Christmas Spirit and a sweet 7 year old girl brought our family a special blessing in the month of December. As I was tidying up at the end of the day, a peculiar sight caught my eye. The little glass Santa boot that would typically hold a treat (but never does because it would be gone in a flash) was no longer empty on the table. A dollar bill and a few random coins sat inside. A little note was taped to the boot with the words, "For the Pore".

I recognized the handwriting of my little girl 7 and immediately emotions started stirring inside. I picked it up, looked inside and then read the note again. I was so touched by the sight that I immediately took a picture and then told my husband. We both cried and laughed (my kids think it's strange that we do such things - cry and laugh at the same time. They'll understand some day!) and then I went to my wallet and pulled out a few bills and some change. Yes, Christmas is about giving; giving of one's self to bless another's life. Instead of thinking about the toys or Santa or treats or fun, she was thinking of somebody else. But not only was she thinking, she was DOING. She was taking action to serve and help.

We quietly showed the boot to the other children in the home and encouraged them to participate. Each day the boot's loot (I like that rhyme) grew bigger and bigger. Daily little girl 7 exclaimed delight as she counted the funds and saw them grow. One day she asked me, "Mom, is it OK if I give all my money to the poor." I was so proud of her - the spirit of giving was deep within, urging her to give, give, give. What an example she was to me. How much more can I give? Not just with money, but with time, or patience, or love, or service?

We were blessed and happy to donate the boot's funds to our church to help a family in need for Christmas. This experience changed the feeling in our home, but more importantly, it changed the feelings in our hearts. I talked with her about it later and told her what a fabulous thing she started. I was so happy that she did such a selfless act and provided an example for us to follow. Then I asked her, "Will you be in charge of putting a sign on the boot every year?" She smiled with excitement and nodded her head emphatically. However, next year, I have a feeling the boot will say, "For the Poor." Nevertheless, I will always treasure those sweet, pure words on the torn piece of paper, "For the Pore."

This Phase shall Pass

2012-01-10T10:01:00.000-07:00

Mom, please hold me. Don't get mad.

Give me a hug and talk to me softly.

Rock me back and forth and tell me it's OK.

Please, just give me some love and attention.

(The thoughts and feelings of a 5 year old, possibly?)

My five year old is going through something. What that something is, I'm not sure! Crying, yelling, tantrums, frustration, and disobedience seem to be the norm right now. I've been very observant through the situation and have noticed that if I get upset with him, raise my voice, send him to his bed, or another similar action, the outbursts become worse and the behavior intensifies. However, if I pick him up, hold him, cuddle him, be patient, talk to him quietly, give love and more love, the sadness and frustration melts away quickly and the situation is over and done with. Then, when the emotions are not so high, we talk about the behavior and what can be done to change it.

Note to self: when tensions are high and negative behavior is seen, remember to hold, to hug, to talk softly, to give love and attention. And, remember that it's just a phase and it will pass. In the mean time, remember what a fabulous, fun and fantastic boy he is...

Sporting his new sunglasses, robe, and PJ's

My shepherd cuddling my angel

Scumps, Scumps, Scuuuuuummmps!

One Favorite Thing: Being a Rock Model

My Knight in Shining Armor (sans armor)

Just too precious!!

ANIMAL!!!!!

Smiles for his Mama

I love you buddy boy! - Mom

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Roll with it, Baby

2012-01-09T09:01:00.000-07:00

"You just roll with it, baby
Come on and just roll with it, baby"

Steve Winwood

Are you one who embraces the moment, the current stage in life? Or, do you wish it away, think of another day or feel unwilling to face the inevitable? I would encourage the former...be grateful for the current stage of life and roll with it.

Our current stage includes a 15 year old daughter. Ahhh, the beautiful age of 15 brings an exciting moment: the learner's permit. Exciting for whom...the child, the parent, or both?

She is definitely excited to drive and yes, we're excited for her to drive as well. Seriously! No, we're not thrilled about the possibilities of accidents or speeding tickets, driver's ed, insurance or extra gas money. But, we know it's the next stage of life for her and we want her to experience that. We have three more years with her in our home and want to take advantage of that time to teach her about driving, good habits, and proper technique; practice and practice under our watchful (and sometimes fearful) eye.

Excitement comes with the fact that we'll have another person to run to the store, pickup so and so, run this errand, and drive herself places. Yes, another go-to person at my disposal. We pay your insurance, honey, so you're mine!

The day after Birthday #15 brought the trip to the DMV. Passing on her first try, she is now a legal permit holder and can drive the streets of AF with a licensed parent. Congratulations!!

No, I'm not a bad photographer - just had to crop out the personal info.

After teaching two other children to drive, this has been the best experience yet! Is it her fabulous driving skills and even personality, or is it my ability to calm down because I've been through this a time or two? Some of both, but I think the latter outweighs the former. Nothing can beat experience - both behind the wheel and for the mother in the passenger's seat.

When the 16th birthday comes around, in approximately 9 months and three weeks (but who's counting), I will be more than THRILLED to take her to get her license. Why wait? Let's get you driving and make all of our lives easier and happier. Roll with it, baby.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Our friend... the Roku

2011-10-03T08:55:00.000-06:00

No more $100 cable bill! Meet our friend, the Roku!

We have never had a $100 cable bill, but many people we know do. We converted from half that amount over a year ago to this little streaming device, the Roku - www.roku.com

No, you cannot access LIVE Jazz games or prime time TV (not that I would want to), but it allows you to connect to your Netflix account for instant streaming to your TV, Amazon on Demand (for more instant streaming movie choices) and other free specialty channels like Hulu, news, radio, and spiritual channels. There are other paid channels one may subscribe to as well.

This past weekend, we had the marvelous opportunity to watch General Conference http://lds.org/general-conference?lang=eng at home because of the Mormon Channel on Roku. Since we do not have any kind of TV access, it was a fabulous experience to view the conference, not just listen to it on the radio.

I like the Roku device vs. standard TV or cable because:

It forces you to make a choice and look up something worthwhile, rather than scroll aimlessly through bogus channels, looking for something to watch.
It takes your monthly bill down to $0.00 after the purchase of the Roku which is as low as $59. (If you want to stream from your Netflix account, you do have your $8/month fee)
Many movie choices are available to rent without having to run down to RedBox or Blockbuster. Convenience!
Entertainment becomes more of a "plan and do", rather than an always-on annoyance.
The remote is simple and easy to use...less than 10 buttons!! Even kids can figure it out. (Maybe that's not such a good thing) Or should I say, even Mom can figure it out?
DVD purchases and DVD storage are becoming obsolete. Many of our current DVDs are accessible through these Roku channels. Also, movies can be purchased through Amazon Instant Video to be watched over and over again. No scratched or lost DVD's. No freezing or skipping. It's fabulous!
It helps a family focus on what's really of worth or valuable to watch. Do you watch the football game "just because it's on?"

Thanks, Roku, for saving us money, giving us options, and allowing a "choice" rather than an "expected".

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Vote for Bushman

2011-10-01T08:33:00.001-06:00

Forget Obama, Romney, Perry, and Huntsman...

Vote for Bushman!!

We had a taste of election mania this Fall with our oldest son running for Student Body President. He was nominated by a classmate and made the cuts, taking the election between him and one other boy. The night before his speech and election day, he created a flyer and recruited his sister to help him out.

Well, he made a great run but ended up losing by two votes. The other boy was a Senior. He is an early-graduating Junior. Even though you didn't win, you tried and gained experience. Also, you were a fine example of a good loser and that's a lesson in and of itself!

Involvement in Student Government is an extra bang for college applications, scholarships and resumes. Consider urging your child to take a stab at it.

The next week, the school held elections for House and Senate Student Government. So now, instead of one possible candidate, we have two student government leaders.

Introducing...

7th Grade: Senator Bushman

11th Grade: Representative Bushman

Congratulations, boys, for being examples of integrity, honesty, loyalty and leadership, such that your peers chose you to be their leaders this year. With leaders like you, there is hope for our country!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Swirlin' love in an iPad Session

2011-09-30T12:11:00.001-06:00

Lessons from an iPad Session...

As I was looking through the pictures on my camera today, I noticed several that a child took of a sibling's iPad session. Yes, it was beneficial to physically see evidence of what Apps they are playing and/or viewing. Not that there's anything on there that I wouldn't approve of. That's the beauty of password protected app downloading! But more than that, it gave me a valuable lesson about my life right now...

I feel like my life is swirling in craziness right now. My mind truly spins with all of the tasks that are placed in front of me, not knowing how I am going to accomplish them. I get overwhelmed and do not handle the stress of the big picture like I should...

The Swirling and Spinning of Life

As I dive in to tackle something, patterns begin to form and organization is hopefully on the horizon...

With action, the swirling turns to patterns and organization

My "Care Bears" are in my life to give me encouragement and support. I could not accomplish all that I do without them...


CareBears = Family and Friends

Keeping on the path, holding tight to consistency, never giving up...are stepping stones to success. Don't forget to enjoy the beauty in the journey...


Stepping Stones of Success

My children are looking to me for direction on how to handle adversity, problems, stress and disappointment. Am I being the example that I should?...

"Should we pull our hair out, too, Mom?"

Even though I don't measure up like I should, I know my family thinks I'm a "Star"!...

Just keep smiling!

I do feel the love, even through the spinning and swirling. With this love, I can accomplish anything (even if it is just one thing on the never-ending list)!...

Sorry, this one's blurry...I can still feel the LOVE, though.

Who would have thought you could derive such analysis from Care Bears and Painting Apps? Whatever keeps me going for another day!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The Blessing of the "Odd Ball"

2011-09-29T08:59:00.000-06:00

Odd Numbers: 1,3,5,7,9,11,13,15,17,19...

Birthdays + Odd Numbers = Happy Mama

It all started with my Mama. When we were young, she decided to have "friend" birthday parties on the even years: 4,6,8,10,12. That meant the odd years were reserved for "family" parties. I am a product of my mother so I adopted the same pattern: odd birthday, no friends; even birthday, friends. Simple & straight-forward; the child knows the pattern and doesn't try to talk you into a friends party when it's an odd year.

Oh, the blessings of having three odd birthdays in a row - within five weeks of each other. And, the rest of 2011 (two more birthdays to go) is odd, too.

#17: Easy to please, happy with everything, simplistic and grateful

Sisters decorated for the event

Finally a display case for his autographed Jazz basketball

"I just want a homemade pumpkin cake." Bless you!

Ahhh, Brazilian lemonade. Tradition: Dinner with Mom and Dad.

Happy to get the latest and greatest calculator...Nerd!

Time for a haircut!

#3: Sooooo excited, loved every minute, enthusiastic, full of smiles (and a few frowns)

"That one's Flicka!" Our homemade horse pasture and arena "Flicka" cake, complete with handmade toothpick fencing

What would we do without big sister?

We love horsies! Love the shoes on the wrong feet!

What would we do without yet another big sister?

Our favorite friends: Dora, Boots, Diego and Baby Jaguar

The Bike Assemblers...Thanks, Boys!

#5:So patient, changed clothes 3 times, content, happy to be 5

Outfit #1: How did we get the "open one present in the morning" tradition?

Outfit #2: Ready for Combat!

Basketball Boy #4

Outfit #3: He wanted the skateboard cake - so glad I went store bought this time!

Everyone wants to take out the candles!!!

Whew! Even family parties can be exhausting!! Happy Birthday to my three "odd balls". Thanks for making my life a little bit easier this year. Now, next year will be a different story...it's an even year for 6 of the 8!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Sometimes "Childs" just Take that Long!

2011-09-28T10:59:00.000-06:00

My daughter was washing her hands in the bathroom, taking what seemed like, forever.
Dad: "Honey, get out of the water."
Honey: "Dad, I'm washing my hands."
Dad: "I know, but you can't take that long, child."
Honey: "Dad, sometimes childs just take that long!"

Thanks for the lesson, babe!

I love this reminder: Sometimes "childs" just take that long! I've had several experiences lately where my children's time-table is not cutting it with my expectations and desires. So, I need a wake-up call from my seven year old to tell me, "Chill out, Mom and let us handle it on our schedule, not yours."

Examples:

1. He hates reading. What? Let's work on comprehension and see how it goes. Can the love for reading please come a little faster? OK, maybe not LOVE - how about willingness to do it? Please, can we not have a fight every night????

2. She knows how to go in the toilet but just doesn't do as much and as fast as I'd like. But maybe the timing is because I'm not as consistent as I should be. There it is: another thing Mom needs to focus on.

3. Decisions are not made as quickly as I'd like, and once it's made, the decision isn't one I'd have my child choose. Please stay on the path and don't take any detours or scenic byways! But maybe that's the teaching moment; NOT my lectures or pleas.

4. Yes, I know you want to help with dinner, but it will take three times longer to get the meal on the table. Could you please just speed it up a little bit??

5. We've been rearranging rooms at our house. Can we please get our rooms together a little faster? I'm tired of the chaos and disorganization!!

6. Will the coughing ever stop? Weeks and weeks of everyone coughing drove me crazy! Now, it's a bruised/fractured rib due to the coughing. Hurry and heal, rib, so my child won't suffer any more!

7. I know you're involved in basketball, choir, ACT prep, church, drama, school work, lawn mowing, friends,and extra classes...but could you please clean your bathroom...TONIGHT!!

It all comes down to patience, realistic expectations, and allowing time to be your friend. Don't rush the process...enjoy the moment!

Here's a thought: What about my time frames that don't meet others' expectations? We won't go there now, will we.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Averted or Accomplished? Think Contentment

2011-09-27T08:51:00.001-06:00

Handing me an eggroll, my sweet little guy (5 tomorrow!!) asks,

"Mom, how many points is this?"

Wow, is Weight Watchers consuming the life of my five year old, too?

So I've been using these a lot lately...

...and eating a lot of these...

Although, I prefer "Lightly Salted"

Focusing on Mom makes a lot of other things go down the drain. Like this:

My laundress moved away!

Or, you rely on a three year old to clean the living room:

Love the pillow configuration!

So that's how she does it...stuff it all under the couch

I've come to the conclusion that when Mom makes her well-being a priority, other aspects of home and family life are going to suffer. There is just not enough time in the day to do EVERYTHING.

I try waking up earlier. Well, I just have to go to bed earlier. I try setting a goal each day to accomplish something that I don't think will get done. Great idea! However, then someone is sick or the dishwasher isn't working or your child's ear gets blasted by a bike pump (story for a later day).

So, what is it going to be today? Is the goal going to be accomplished or averted? Either way, I try to find contentment in what is achieved and avoid looking at the disasters that will just have to be saved for another day. Off to fitness class...

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Scraping: Cool Thing or Fun Thing?

2011-09-20T14:19:00.000-06:00

4 year old: "I want to scrape the apples."

3 year old: "I scrape the apples?"

Making gluten-free apple crisp last night was so wonderful 'cause I didn't have to peel the apples! I just purchased two new peelers...I guess I need to buy a couple more; they were in high demand! Either I don't peel apples enough and this is a "cool thing", or cooking together can be a "fun thing". I think both apply.

Next time, can we please "scrape" onto a paper towel or grocery bag or into a trash can to avoid peels all over the floor?

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

"Smell the Roses" and Remember, it's a Purple Shirt!

2011-09-16T20:27:00.000-06:00

One of my worst fears is first, having a missing child, and second,

not being able to remember what they were wearing that day!

Can you relate to this or am I just a bad mother? Truly, with all of the things I need to do and remember, I sometimes have a hard time recalling what my children are wearing that day. Was it a purple shirt or a red shirt? Jeans or shorts? Flip flops or tennis shoes?

My little daughter taught me some lessons today about observation...

Grandma came to visit this morning. Like usual, when she sees a clean hamper of clothes that needs to be folded, she goes to work. My little lady LOVES to fold clothes when there's someone to fold with, so she quickly went over to assist. Grandma is a great folder but she doesn't know whose clothes are whose, which is understandable. With each item of clothing, she asked our cutie pie whose it was. This three year old could tell her whom each article belonged to, right down to the boxers....and she was correct, every time. It was incredible!

Telling Grandma whom the shorts belong to.

Folding brothers' boxers doesn't phase her. She hasn't moved into the "cooties" phase yet.

Notifying Grandma that she put the shorts in the wrong pile!

To me, a pair of jeans is a pair of jeans. A pink shirt looks a lot like another pink shirt. A pair of black basketball shorts is very similar to another child's black shorts. How is it that a three year old can pinpoint the smallest details and place ownership to them?

Observation...the act of noticing or perceiving. I know little children learn through observation, so how much more could I learn if I were to be more observant? Would I notice that one of my children was having a bad day, is sad or lonely? Would I notice an opportunity to serve? Would I see the blessings instead of focusing on what I don't have? Would I see all of the fingernails that need to be cut or the hair that needs to be brushed? (Well, I don't have a problem seeing those things.) Observing the little things that get overlooked because we don't stop to "smell the roses" will bring more blessings to us individually, as well as those around us.

And who knows, maybe being more observant will help me recall what my kids are wearing today or tomorrow or next week!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Lose Teeth and Master Money

2011-09-13T08:37:00.000-06:00

The note was written on the computer.

This same note was printed and put under her pillow.

The next morning, she excitedly found and read the note.

I forgot to close down the program on my computer.

Of course, she saw the same note on my computer screen.
"It's you!!!", she delightedly exclaimed.

Yes, I am my kids' tooth fairy! The above vignet really did happen several months ago. I can't believe I didn't close down Print Shop where I had written a cute little note to my daughter from the Tooth Fairy.

I knew she was already a bit suspicious so I freely told her that I am indeed the Tooth Fairy and she was sworn to secrecy.

Sunday night she bravely pulled out another loose tooth, on her own.

She pulled me aside and whispered, "Can you come tonight?"

Truth be told, I'm not very good at playing Tooth Fairy. She usually doesn't appear for a few days, sometimes a week. I finally get to the point where I have to email myself a reminder. Is it old age or just so many people to manage that my memory can't hold it all? Hopefully, the latter! As far as the reward, the later I am, the more my kids receive to make up for the tardiness. The usual loot is a dollar per tooth plus a candy bar or some gum; this turns a traumatic experience into a delightful one.

My niece just lost her tooth and her mother explained on Facebook about her "Tooth Fairy" moment, "The tooth fairy left coins for her to count and keep. When she masters counting them she promised to bring another surprise."

I LOVE this! Use every moment to teach. What a great idea to encourage her daughter to learn money counting skills. She's motivated to practice so the Tooth Fairy will bring another surprise. However, there's one flaw in this logic... the Tooth Fairy has to remember TWICE per tooth, not just once.Oh boy, more remembering.

The Tooth Fairy has not visited my sweet girl yet, so, I'm going to use my sister's idea and get the money counting mastered!

Help your child on her way towards mastering money with the Stick-to-it Money Management System.

See how Tooth Fairy coins and dollars can be turned into big savings over time...that is, if the Tooth Fairy gets with it!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Supervision by A Brain-Dead Mama

2011-09-12T10:53:00.001-06:00

"A burger, some fries, a shake to eat;

It will really and truly be a great treat!

So, come and share in all the fun,

But Mom will be there so walk, don't run.

My 14 year old daughter is a delight, a pure joy!

She is dedicated, responsible, fun, obedient, self-governed, kind, and helpful. I'm confident with her choice of friends and happy with the activities they choose to do. However, that doesn't mean that I'm fine with no supervision, especially when boys are involved!

A few months ago she asked if a group of her friends could go to the local burger 'n shake spot, JCW's. Sure, why not? It's a group of kids, a NICE group of kids...let me know the logistics.

My daughter soon informed me that one of her friends could not go if there was no adult supervision. Of course...why didn't I think of that? "Brain-dead" moment. Brain Dead or B.D. I'm thankful to that mother who took a stand and woke me up a bit. Yes, they're great kids. However, they're still young and especially when the genders are mixed, supervision is best!

We don't want any of this going on...

So, I got the privilege of playing supervisor. It really was a fun job...

It's good for our youth to learn about and interact with the opposite gender. Let's just make sure it's at the right time and with the proper supervision. Hopefully, I can avoid more Brain Dead moments in the future...

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Sabbath Thoughts: Earth Life vs. College Life

2011-09-11T19:26:00.001-06:00

"And we will prove them herewith, to see if they will do all things

whatsoever the Lord their God shall command them"

Abraham 3:25

In one week we celebrated our youngest turning three...

Happy Birthday, Sweetie!!

and sent our oldest off to college.

Ready to conquer the world!

Quite the contrast! The day came so soon. It seems like she was just little, starting her life of learning and growing.

1st Birthday - 1994

I've been thinking a lot about the similarities between sending off a child to college, leaving home for the first time, and our Heavenly Father sending us to Earth to gain experience and knowledge. Here it goes...

We were taught well, prepared to come to Earth, just as she's been prepared for 18 years to leave home.

We were excited for the adventure....a chance to prove ourselves, use our agency, establish relationships and learn. She is excited for her adventure....a chance to prove to herself that she can do this, a chance to use her agency without Mom and Dad giving their opinions, a chance to gain new relationships, and to learn many new things!!

I'm sure Heavenly Father was sad to see us go, just as Sam and I are sad to see her go. (Yes, I've texted her several times to tell her she's missed!!) On the contrary, He was happy for our opportunity, just as we are thrilled for her new stage of life.

Heavenly Father is delighted when we pray, telling Him our joys and sorrows. We are thrilled for any communication we get from our daughter. (She told us she'd call every night...ha ha...we told her she'd be having too much fun to remember her parents)

When we return home after this life, I'm sure we will be greeted with open arms. When she comes home (even if it's just for the weekend), our arms are wide open, for sure!!!

Oh, if saying goodbye were only as easy on the heart as analyzing similarities between the pre-existence and college life! I guess if it were that easy, it wouldn't matter so much...but it does!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Flicka and Maximus: A "NO-Media" Moment

2011-09-09T08:19:00.000-06:00

"Go Faster, Maximus."

"No, Flicka faster"

"Maximus is going to beat Flicka."

"No, Flicka beat Maximus."

Can you tell who's four and who's two?

Ahhhhh, simple fun. Who would have thought that a pair of red suitcases with handles could provide an hour of horseback riding fun yesterday for two little people. It never ceases to amaze me how in a world of gimme, gimme, gimme, children can be content with imaginative play. This time, it required nothing more than an empty suitcase and a creative mind.

Flicka (left) and Maximus (right) with some happy riders.

Ipads, Ipods, Video Game Systems, Computer Games, Handhelds, Movies in your car, Movies at home, Movies on your phone, TV, Cell phones, Texting, Smart Phones...It's too much!

Have a "No-Media" Moment and let the fun begin!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

You've Got This! (Even if it is bad grammar)

2011-09-08T09:51:00.002-06:00

To my Daughter:

I drove away thinking, "Did I teach you all you need to know?

Did I fulfill the responsibility to raise you in the way you should go?"

My very first child, so beautiful and capable, has grown...

...you're off to college, independent and free. You're on your own!

- Mom

"Don't worry, Mom. I've got this!"

Yesterday was the day...the day we sent you, our oldest child, out into the real world. Can I say, Mixed Emotions!?! I was so proud of myself for I did not cry when I said goodbye. That doesn't mean I didn't cry on the way home! I have thought a lot about this new stage of life that you and our family is entering. I'm going to save some of my musings for my Sabbath Thoughts post on Sunday, but here are a few...

1. You are never ready to go. No matter how much you prepare, make lists, check off the list, purchase necessities (and not so much), pack, discuss, and plan, you're never really "ready" to jump off. This is just like any other stage in life. You can read all about being a parent, but you'll never be ready to have a child. The EXPERIENCE makes you ready. Jumping in with both feet prepares you. Being your first real day away from home, you are getting more ready every minute! Do you miss me yet?

2. There is no use wondering if I taught you everything you need to know because there's nothing I can do about it anyway! Yes, we did our very best for 18 years to teach, train, and love. Now, it's up to you, kid.

3. You've got this! You can do hard things!! You have the drive, motivation, and desire to succeed. "You've got the power!" song just came to mind. I know, weird.

4. Even though money is tight and you wonder how you're going to do it, it's for your good. When you're handed something on a silver platter, you don't appreciate it nearly as much as if you worked long and hard to earn it yourself. You're learning a valuable lesson...do your part, do it well and see what happens!

5. We gave you all of the last minute advice yesterday. Thanks for humoring us. You probably wanted to say, "STOP!!!" Well, some last, last minute advice: think of others, pray, always go to church, have fun, take your classes seriously, be flexible, stand for what is right, and remember who loves you!!

"Thanks for making my bed, Mama" (Loved it!)

Just because you're "on your own", doesn't mean you're "on your own." We're always here to encourage, listen, pray, love, and assist. Now go get that job and don't forget to take your vitamins!!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

A Kudos to Nine

2011-09-06T09:12:00.001-06:00

This cake is burnt, the other was picked in.

The cream cheese did not make it to the fridge.

I pinched my finger and twisted my ankle.

Everyone is coughing; must we make a third cake?

No, this was not meant to rhyme...

After a crazy weekend, a Shout-out to my family is necessary today!

THANK YOU...

Dad: ...for making my life easier, doing errands, taking care of the rowdies at bed time, dealing with all of the things I don't like to do, being involved in all of the family stuff, helping with sick people, involving the children in projects, encouraging hard work and participation, giving hugs and support when people are down, listening and then helping with problem solving, being willing to let go AND hold on.

Bird: ...for running to get pizza for the party, doing the birthday-girl's hair, searching for little plastic horses, being my errand-girl, getting your room packed up, keeping us entertained with stories and drama, driving Dad to his lunch meeting, offering to help during the cake meltdown and oh, so much more. How we'll miss you when you leave tomorrow for college!

Big-A: ... for doing pick-up at the school, organizing the garage racks, detailing the Yukon, breaking up the quarrels, cutting the cantaloupe, including your brother in all your jobs, helping little people brush their teeth, being willing to try the oils, being the family driver, and keeping us laughing with funny jokes, stories and voices.

EE: ... for scrubbing the kitchen floor sooooo well, decorating for the birthday, making the cakes (even though it was a bust - not your fault!), willing to help without being asked to, going shopping and doing errands, supporting your sister with all the preparations, looking for shoes, supportive of better eating habits, and everything else that I haven't mentioned.

Bamzini: ... for shipping product, sweeping and rearranging the garage, assembling the bike, playing with the birthday girl while I made the cake, mowing the lawn, counting points, giving little sister kisses just because, setting goals and working towards them, emptying the trash can, creating fun times for the little people, and doing your part.

Shoemaker: ... for picking up apples, cleaning up the toys, being a trooper through this illness, cutting lettuce, helping with the cake, being the assistant bike-assembler, wiping pen and crayon off of the walls, doing your chores so quickly, being willing and excited to go to Scouts, reading, playing Go Fish with sister, and having a better attitude.

Little Mam:... for being so kind to your little sister by helping her open her presents, playing with her new toys, getting her dressed for the day, and helping her ride her new trike; for your desire to always help...make the frosting, decorate the cake, give ideas and encouragement, wrap the presents; for being a peacemaker, doing your school work, and always wanting a tuck-in.

Cheeks:... for giving such great hugs, kisses, and zerberts, cutting cucumbers, stirring anything, helping sister, always smiling, emptying the garbage cans, being patient, watching Diego even though you wanted to watch Sully, cleaning up your messes, listening the first time, making your bed and practicing your letters.

Miss May:... for saying please and thank you all the time, sleeping in, bringing us joy and being lovable, trying new things, snapping the beans, wanting to do the dishes, still putting your shoes on the wrong feet, singing songs over and over again, making me a better mom, apologizing, and loving life!

A Kudos to nine people that not only lighten my load, but bring me true joy and happiness!

Father's Day Program: June, 2011

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

"Snap" up the Opportunity

2011-09-05T07:59:00.002-06:00

"Oh who, oh who will help me snap the beans?

Oh who, oh who will it be?"

Look at that smile! Who says working can't be fun?

I took the fresh beans out of the refrigerator to prepare them for dinner. I was going to snap them myself but then thought, "That's ridiculous. There has to be somebody around who can do this for me." The first person I saw was our little lady, sitting at the bar with a snack. "Hmmmm", I thought. "I wonder if she can do this." Of course she can! I asked her if she wanted to snap beans. Of course she did! She tried to snap them by holding each end. That didn't work. I showed her how to snap it from the middle and she went to town.

She took ownership of this project, extremely happy with her ability to fulfill the job that Mom needed accomplished, learning a new skill, and having fun at the same time. She was content to snap for 20 minutes. Now I like that kind of entertainment! The key here is opportunity. If I didn't give her the opportunity to snap the beans, she wouldn't have had this learning experience. Look for opportunities for your child to shine, learn, improve, assist, grow and develop.

Snapping beans: another terrific toddler-task!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Sabbath Thoughts: Playing our Part

2011-09-04T09:53:00.001-06:00

"Do your part; do all you can do, and see what happens, inside and out"

Moi

Each part in a play is vital to the story. Playing the role well is essential for the success of the production. If one does not perform to her true level of talent, it is felt or seen by the audience. But truly, it is the inner-self that suffers. Playing the part and doing it well brings outward blessings of applause, standing ovations and whistles, as well as inward blessings of contentment, peace, gratitude, and happiness. I hope to relate these thoughts with two stories:

1. Years ago my son and his friend had their bikes parked outside of a friend's home. When they went outside to ride, they were gone. Distraught and upset, my son came home with the story of what happened. He had worked long and hard to save the money for that bike and now it was gone. We drove around the neighborhood a little bit to look for it. We prayed. We didn't have much hope that it would be found. We didn't call the police because we felt there was little they could do but file a report and hope that the bike got turned in. Pretty much, we called it a loss.

Two days later my son received a call from his friend that their bikes had been found. The friend went the extra effort, doing all he could do, to call the police and file a report. Because they did so, when the bikes were miraculously found by the police, stashed in some bushes, they were able to match up the bikes to the report and call the owners, two thirteen year old boys. Because my son's friend did his part, they were both able to receive the outward and inner blessings. This was a lesson learned for all of us. Go the extra mile, take the extra step, play the part to the best of your ability and see what happens. Do all you can do!

2. My sister told me the following story: "I headed to DI (like Salvation Army) early this morning to try to locate my daughter's $300 orthotics that were in a pair of shoes we gave away on Monday. The people there were not very hopeful that we would find them. But after searching through bins and bins and bags and bags of shoes, I miraculously found them! Hooray!" My sister played the part of my son's friend, taking the extra step, playing the part well, to locate the orthotics. The workers played the role of my family, thinking it was a lost cause, doubtful and without hope. Because she did her part, she not only saved her family $300, but taught them a lesson, as well. When we do our part, miracles happen.

No, success stories like the above will not always happen. For one reason or another, we may not find something that is lost, a test score may not be as high as we'd like, a job may not be received, or an opportunity may not arise. However, one thing is certain...if you don't perform the part well, doing all you can do, there is no room for the outward blessings to come...If the police report wasn't filed, the bike would not have been found. If she didn't look for the orthotics, they would have been permanently lost. The inward blessings of gratitude and peace are felt when true effort takes place.The Lord wants us to do our part and teach our children to do the same.

This truly relates to Christ's Atonement for all of us. When we do all that we can to live according to His commandments, He steps in and takes care of the heartaches, disappointments and frustrations that we encounter in this life. He brings the contentment, peace and happiness that comes with playing our part in the story.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Show Me: A Mean Mom Moment

2011-09-03T08:18:00.001-06:00

Sing me no song, read me no rhyme

Don't waste my time, show me

Please don't implore, beg on the seats

Don't make all the speech, show me...

...Please don't explain, show me, show me

Michael Ball - "Show Me"

I witnessed a "Mean Mom Moment" a few weeks ago. Well, I didn't really witness it; I heard about it. I felt like doing the old Piedmont High cheer - Be Impressive, B-E Impressive. B-E-I-M-P-R-E-S-S-I-V-E! Truly, I was impressed by how she handled the situation!

Her son wanted to go see the new Harry Potter movie for his birthday. They agreed to take him when the time came. Being how many almost-eleven-year-old boys can be, he was giving her fits that week...teasing, arguing, complaining, and disobedient. This is how she responded to the behavior:

"Your behavior tells me you don't want to go see the movie. You need to show me that you want to see the movie. Until then, we're not going."

She then proceeded to tell him that he needed to spend the next week "showing" that he wants to go see Harry Potter...be appreciative, respectful, kind, helpful, and obedient.

Show Me!

I LOVE that!! Seeing the movie is a privilege, not a right. Until you show me with proper behavior that you want that privilege, it's out the window. Actions determine consequences, positive or negative.

Thanks for "showing me" a new perspective on behaviors and privileges! I eat up those Mean Mom Moments!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The Creative Cap and the Triple E's

2011-09-02T08:59:00.000-06:00

Creativity

The ability to transcend traditional ideas, rules, patterns, relationships, or the like,

and to create meaningful new ideas, forms, methods, interpretations, etc.;

originality, progressiveness, or imagination

"Oh, hello there. I'm Joe..."

"...and I'm Bill."

"And together, we're the Geek Squad."

I LOVE it when my children put on their creative caps and explore their imagination; the wonder and excitement of being a child knows no bounds. For certain children, the cap doesn't come on very often so I like to Encourage, Experience and Enjoy whenever it does!

Encourage

Whenever you see the creativity start to creep out, milk it. Encourage it by telling them to do it again, and again, and again. Get out the camera, start videoing; whatever it takes to keep it going.

Experience

You never know when they'll put on their cap, so stop whatever you are doing and experience the show. Curl up on the couch, gather everyone around, actively observe, and FEEL their passion for their latest and greatest comedy routine.

Enjoy

Laugh, laugh and cry at the same time, smile, applaud, or give a standing ovation. Truly enjoy the moment because the moments don't come very often, especially as they get older.

I captured a moment on video the other day...

Three cousins composed and wrote their own song!

Creativity: a power that allows you to be a kid, even when you're not. Yes, Mom can be creative, too!

"There's a hole in the bucket, Dear Liza, Dear Liza"

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Turn an "I don't know" into an "I know how"

2011-09-01T08:28:00.005-06:00

I ask him to cut the lettuce.

"I don't know how."

I ask him to grate the carrots.

"I don't know how."

Have I taught you anything??

When I hear the words, "I don't know how", I tend to do a double take and think, "Really?? How have you grown up in this house without knowing how to do BASIC things?" Truthfully, I think many times it's a cop-out.

Child: "Hmmm, if I tell Mom I don't know how, maybe she'll let me off the hook."

Mom: "Wrong! That's my cue to put you to work and make sure you know how!"

Other times it could be a cry out for attention; spend time with me, teach me something, hold my hand, lead me, guide me.

Some of the "I don't know how!" examples I've encountered lately:

While fixing dinner, I strive to always have a helper - someone to wash, chop, measure, pour, stir...something to give me another set of hands to get the meal on the table more quickly. Yesterday, I asked my ten year old son to help me grate the carrots. Yes, I got the response and yes, I showed him how and put him to work. Next, I asked him to chop the lettuce. "I don't know how". How can this be? How many times has he seen me chop lettuce? So, I stopped what I was doing and showed him in detail how to chop the lettuce.

Yes! Someone else to do this job!

The Proof: He CAN grate carrots!

My daughter is looking for a job to pay for college. I told her she needed to create a resume. "I don't know how!" Legitimate. She has never had to look for a job before, thus never needing a resume. We spent an afternoon compiling an amazing looking resume for one just graduated from high school. Now she just needs to find the job - another "I don't know how" syndrome.
My son just opened his first bank account with his first check book. "Mom, I don't know how to write a check." Here we go again...It just seems like yesterday that I was teaching our first child about check writing, debit cards and bank accounts. Round Two!
"Mom, how do I do this math problem, how do I get a picture into my Word file, how do I download this attachment from gMail, I don't know what to say when I call, I don't know where to look for used books, I don't know how to tie my shoes, how do I spell..."

There's always going to be an "I don't know how!" Let's be sure we do our best as parents to turn an "I don't know" into an "I know how!"

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Whether they like it or not!

2011-08-31T09:05:00.000-06:00

Whether the weather be fine or whether the weather be not,

Whether the weather be cold or whether the weather be hot,

We'll weather the weather, whatever the weather,

Whether we like it or not.

Author Unknown

This is dedicated to my family and friends on the East Coast who weathered the weather, whether they liked it or not. So glad that everyone was safe and virtually unaffected!

I do enjoy this little poem; it's one that all of my children have memorized while learning to read. Hearing quality poems, literature and songs from my children's mouths is much more enjoyable than ridiculous, nonsensical ditties that children bring home from school or the neighborhood social hour. "I see London, I see France" does not belong in our family's repertoire. Yes, they probably know it but I don't want to hear it! Let's encourage more elevated thoughts and vocabulary in our homes!

Looks like we'll be weathering some hot weather today. However, it's better than a hurricane. Wait, by the looks of my house right now, it may have just have been hurricane-struck! Do I need to start singing: Clean-up, Clean-up, everybody, everywhere. Clean-up, Clean-up, everybody do your share? Don't like the ditty, but I like the concept...whether they like it or not!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Sabbath Thoughts: You and We NOT I and Me

2011-08-30T07:05:00.000-06:00

I want that one. No, I want that one.

I had that first. No, I had that first.

Sound familiar? Listening to my children fight over Playmobile pieces on Sunday morning gave me the desire to talk to them about You and We verses I and Me. "I" can be such a selfish word, one that sends focus internally rather than externally. "Me" is a similar thing. Reminds me of that Country Song, "I Wanna Talk about Me.... Me, me, me, me, me, me, me." "You" on the other hand, turns the focus towards others, encouraging service and concern for someone else. "We" is plural and denotes cooperation, working together, synergy, and getting along.

So, back to the Playmobil playing. He wanted a certain piece. She wanted it too. Can't we focus on You and We? I encouraged them to think of the other (You) rather than yourself (I). Isn't it more fun to play together (We) rather than feel selfish by yourself (Me)? It helped! They compromised and worked things out.

One might say to allow children to work out their problems themselves. However, the scriptures tell us that parents should not suffer their children to fight and quarrel with one another.

I had another thought about You and We verses I and Me. When we have struggles in life, confrontations or quarrelings with another, Satan encourages us to focus on I and Me; the world teaches to look out for number one. However, Jesus Christ is our partner (we). He was the perfect example of service (you) and through His atonement, WE can overcome faults, sadness, fear, loss, temptation, and sorrow.

Let's pick our pronouns carefully...You and We, not I and Me.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The POWER of the Money-Maker

2011-08-26T08:43:00.004-06:00

The Lawn Mower = Essential equipment to teenage boys earning money.

Broken Lawn Mower = Empty Pockets

Taking it to the Shop = Even Emptier Pockets

Fixing it Yourself = Knowledge, Self-Reliance, Money Saved

When the lawn mower is broken, there are two unhappy boys at our house, for the lawn mower is their "money-maker". Unfortunately, it broke down this month, and they fretted for a bit. However, they turned their fretting into positive action; got out the manual, discovered the part they needed, ordered it online, waited not-so-patiently for it to arrive in the mail, and installed the part.

Fixing the "Money-Maker"

Ta-da! Working lawn mower for $18.62, including shipping.Congratulations, boys. Way to take action and solve the problem!

Self-Reliant:relying on oneself or on one's own powers, resources, etc.

www.dictionary.com

Self Reliance applies to so many areas in our lives: finances, employment, education, preparation, skills, hobbies, health, food, and home-maintenance, just to name a few. Teaching our children the valuable principle of building and strengthening self-reliance will serve them well right now AND in the future.

A few ideas for encouraging self-reliance:

1. Provide a way, help find a way or encourage a way to earn money based on hard work and performance, not a free ride. Encourage financial discipline and long-term savings. See our Money Management System for a tool to assist with financial success.

2. Value education and encourage hard work and diligence in studying. When children do well in school (providing the ability to get scholarships to college), they are actually getting PAID to do their homework. Instill this philosophy in your child at a young age. Teach them to search out scholarships and apply for everything they can find so they can go to college debt-free.

3. Give your child the opportunity to prepare meals. This not only assures that he won't starve when he leaves home, but educates about food costs, nutrition, and health-management.

4. Involve children in projects around the house and learning new skills. A friend of mine told me about fixing her washing machine with her teenage son, saving hundreds of dollars in repair costs. He is now blessed with that knowledge to help his future family or someone else in need.

5. When looking for employment as a teenager, search out jobs that provide a skill and a learning opportunity. One boy we know works for a construction company and is learning welding skills. Another boy works for a landscaper and is learning to install sprinkler systems. One friend cleans buildings with her parents. These are skills that can be utilized for the rest of their lives!
6. Look for classes available in your area that teach unique skills. My second son took a small engine repair class this summer, learning the ins and outs of mower repair, maintenance and tuning. Now he has the knowledge and ability to earn money performing these services.

7. Hard work leads to more opportunities because hard work is recognized and spoken of. A strong work ethic is DEVELOPED. Start when they're young and have high, but realistic expectations.

8. Be an example of the principles you want your children to embrace!

They may not have super hero powers, but as we "Stick-to-it", our children will be able to rely on their own powers and resources to bless their lives and those around them.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Thanks, Adventures in Odyssey!

2011-08-25T07:03:00.000-06:00

Sibling relationships, communication, the golden rule, honesty, love, humility, trusting God, peer pressure, justice, courage, truth, friendship, determination, leadership, hard work, obedience, American History, Biblical Stories, consequences, responsibility, giving, compassion, charity, giving thanks, caring for the poor, contentment, selflessness.

Looking for QUALITY entertainment that promotes these values and so many more?

Adventures in Odyssey

"Created for ages 8-12 but enjoyed by the whole family, Adventures in Odyssey presents original audio stories brought to life by actors who make you feel like part of the experience. These fictional, character-building dramas are created by an award-winning team that uses storytelling to teach lasting truths."

www.adventuresinodyssey.com

Our family was introduced to this fantastic audio series in 1996 when we purchased a radio station in Delta, UT. Adventures in Odyssey was one of the programs that we aired daily. We looked forward to these humorous and entertaining stories every day; stories that teach true principles and values in the middle of exciting adventures. The imagination station takes you to the Civil War and the assassination of Abraham Lincoln or to the story of Joseph in Egypt. Modern day stories give real-life examples of situations our children may find themselves in. After selling our radio station and moving North, we lost touch of Adventures in Odyssey but have rediscovered it again. All the fun memories of our favorite character, Eugene, as well as Whit, Connie, Dr. Blackggard, Bernard, Jimmy & Donna, and so many more, have hit home.

My description really can't do it justice. Download a free episode here and listen for yourself. Over 600 episodes have been produced, based around the ice cream shop, Whit's End, in the town of Odyssey. Listen online or find it on the radio near you. I promise...your children will LOVE it.

Thanks, Adventures in Odyssey, for providing QUALITY, family entertainment!!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Support the Blood Sucker

2011-08-24T08:30:00.000-06:00

Here we are together, together, together;

Oh, here we are together, for Phlebotomy.

There's mother and father and sister and brother

and sister and brother and sister and brothers.

Oh, here we are together, for Phlebotomy.

Supporting one another: crucial to a successful, loving, happy family. Support at basketball games, support with school work, support for tough decisions, support of new stages in life. The word support is a verb which equates to action.

So, we took action and supported our daughter at Friends and Family Night for her Phlebotomy Class. 9 out of the 10 people in our family agreed to getting poked so she could practice "sticking". Little Girl Two was not so sure so she just watched. NOTE: All participated under their own free will!

Dad was the first guinea pig...

She's a pro!

Searching for a vein...

All Smiles - Before...

...During...

...and After!

A little worried!

Doesn't phase him!

I was so happy with my crew's willingness to support their big sister. Yes, it's a little unnerving, I admit, but being of help to her was all worth it! Keep "'sticking'-to-it", sweetie. You'll be a great blood sucker!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Dumb Stuff and Common Sense

2011-08-23T08:53:00.000-06:00

The beauty and amazement of the kaleidoscope has wowed children for generations. After Sunday's episode, we'll think twice about this little, seemingly innocent, plastic kaleidoscope.

Kids just do dumb things. The sooner you learn that and accept the expected, you won't get nearly as frustrated and annoyed by those ridiculous events that take place on a regular basis.

The latest dumb thing began with my son bringing home a little plastic kaleidoscope from a birthday party on Saturday.

The culprit...see the hole in the green one?

Sunday morning (yes, of course, Sunday) my daughter put her finger into the hole and managed to get it seriously stuck. No amount of soap or lotion or twisting would get it off. The plastic was moldable so it dug into her finger. She was really in pain. Dad came to the rescue which unveiled this:

The view from one side of the finger

Wow! We've had our fair share of dumb stuff, that's for sure...

1. Jumping from the top of the bunk bed, hitting the ceiling light fixture, landing on another bed, with shattered glass all over. Not a scratch or a cut resulted from this super-hero stunt.

2. Attaching hand cuffs just above the knee and securing the other side of the cuff to the kitchen drawer. This was the day when there was only a key to open it, no release mechanism. Pulling that off was not fun!

3. Standing in a bucket of blocks and wetting the pants. I had to wash every single one of those plastic blocks! (No dishwasher in that house)

4. Riding the bike down the street, not looking forward; running into the neighbor's truck and smashing the face. Nothing broken!

5. Child takes a steak knife from the knife block. Another child tries to get it away. Children are running up the stairs. Child with knife stabs chasing child due to the swing of the knife while running. Stab resulted in small lesion; no stitches.

6. Sitting in front of a glass curio, the child tips back the little chair and smashes into the curio, cutting the back of the head...blood everywhere. Boy, those head wounds really bleed. Again, no stitches.

7. Toilet is left up, unflushed. Toddler toddles into the bathroom, grabs the "stuff" from the toilet and starts eating it. We'll not discuss any more about this one.

8. Child ties a parachute cord to the waist, ties the other end to the top of the bunk bed and jumps. Gets stuck in mid-air, screaming for help to "scissor it" (cut it).

9. Leaving the top of the glue open, it spills and makes a glue puddle on the carpet, 3" x 3". Glue and carpet do not mix. Tip to clean up: Scrape it up with a spoon, over and over. Do not use water!!

10. Throwing rocks in the back yard results in the kitchen window breaking. "I didn't do it...my friend did." Uh, huh.

11. The googly eye in the ear is classic.

12. Lettuce up the nose. It took us two weeks to discover what the source of that disgusting smell was. It wasn't bad breath!

13. Bead up the nose. Good thing for the nose sucker (bulb syringe).

14. Oh, no. You didn't listen and stay by Mom; fell in a hole and cut the eyebrow.

15. Jumping off the side of the bathtub like Superman, hitting the cheek bone on the tub. STITCHES!

16. Microwaving clay and dropping it on the floor. Clay everywhere!

I'm sure if I dig into those deep recesses of the brain where I store such memories, I could come up with many more. The bright side of doing the dumb stuff? Hopefully, our children learn a lesson. Oh, let's hope common sense sinks in and the dumb stuff decreases!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Stepping out of Childhood

2011-08-22T08:07:00.000-06:00

As a tie-in to yesterday's post, Just Around the Corner, I'm feeling a little melancholy about some of my children's disappointments that Sam and I discussed with them yesterday. One received a job offer that just isn't going to work out for various reasons. The other is concerned about money, college, passing certification tests, etc. A long conversation into the night was filled with positive encouragement, hope for a brighter tomorrow, tasks to be focused on, and faith that it will work out. Sometimes, that's all we can go by...doing our part and having faith that the Lord will provide.

These two young people are stepping out of childhood and into adulthood and it's a bit of a shock. No matter how hard we try to prepare them, no matter how many experiences we provide for learning and growth, moving on to being a "grown up" is an adjustment that only the child can wade through, despite the desire as parents to carry them. Of course, this is the next step, necessary to their progression. But oh, sometimes I yearn to just wrap my arms around them and tell them that Mom will take care of them; not realistic or possible! Yet, the feelings are still there!

So, I gave them my own advice from yesterday's blog post. Keep climbing...the meadow is just around the corner. It all sounds good on paper. But when it's your children, you pray that it really is...and soon!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Sabbath Thoughts: Just Around the Corner

2011-08-21T09:35:00.001-06:00

The hike went on and on, up steep hills leading to a beautiful meadow.

Carrying a backpack, with the baby inside; encouraging another toddler in tow.

Where is the meadow, oh where can it be? They said it was there but I see only trees

on each side of the pathway, hear bees buzzing, a river trickling and the rustling of leaves.

Another hill in the distance; let's just turn back...the kids are tired and I'm feeling old;

But the thought of the goal keeps us in step, "The meadow is there!", we were confidently told.

Up one more hill, "I can do it, I say". Then the kids out in front shout a triumphant, "Hooray!

The meadow's in sight, just around the bend." What a glorious end to such a long, hot day!

In the trenches of child raising, trials and bumps along the way often keep us from "pressing forward". The desire to "quit and turn back" many times takes over, as parents deal with children whom are disobedient, angry, grumpy, lazy, rebellious, sarcastic, unwilling, and stubborn.
I've found that as I climb the parenting hill, thinking a behavior or an attitude in a child will never wane, "sticking to" the path (the tried and true methods) and not giving up, bring moments of joy when the meadow is in sight and the goal is obtained.

What are some of these tried and true methods? Communication, honesty, PRAYER, creativity, hope, opportunity, discipline, late night discussions, hugs, LOVE, encouragement, privileges (or not), TIME, gentleness or firmness,consequences, options/choices, persistence, service, patience, motivation.........

The joy we feel when a behavior is turned, a goal is met, a situation is resolved, a confrontation is softened, a right choice is made, a testimony is gained or a repentant heart takes shape is worth the work of climbing the path!

At the top of the hill...where is the meadow?

We made it!

The meadow (the picture doesn't do it justice)

20 Amazing Troopers!

Most of the time, the joy of the journey isn't climbing the hill. Instead, it's just around the corner!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Cement, Muscles and Push-Pops

2011-08-20T08:44:00.000-06:00

Childhood Memory: The day we poured the basketball court in our backyard...the excitement of the cement truck, the huge extension hose running down the side of the house to carry the cement, watching the sloppy mess, the mesmerizing appeal of the leveling and smoothing, Grandpa telling me not to get too close, the heat of the day, the desire to slosh through the wet cement, the finished product. Watching, ever watching....but not helping. I probably could have assisted with something had I spoken up. But I didn't. I ate my push-pop instead.

Ahhh, the joys of home improvement projects. Do you just want your children out of your hair so you can get it done? Or do you involve them in the project so they can EXPERIENCE and LEARN a new skill that will help them in their future family?

We try to choose the latter. No, it's not always possible for them to help out, but the more projects they have their hand in, the less money they'll be spending to hire someone else to do it when they're grown. And they can save Mom and Dad a little money, too!

Fast forward twenty five years to our own cement pouring project.

Carried and loaded old concrete, cleared rocks, helped level

Broke out old concrete, prepared the area by digging and digging and digging, leveling, transported cement.

I watched the truck and the pouring and the smoothing. No push-pop this time!

More on-lookers

My gophers...very helpful!

No matter how exciting it is (or isn't) to watch wet cement coming out of the truck, it's even more exciting watching my children participate. Put them to work; it keeps them off video games, TV and computer, and builds muscle and brain power. Don't forget to give them a push-pop when they're done! (Do they even exist anymore?)

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Creativity & Time = Money in your Pocket

2011-08-19T08:48:00.000-06:00

Prom Day for Boys:

Dry Clean the Suit, Pick up the Corsage, Clean the Car, Shower,

Do the Hair, Pick up the Girl, Arrange and Pay? for Dinner...

....MOM!!!!!!

OK, so it didn't quite happen like that. When I heard that my son and his friends were thinking of taking their dates to Olive Garden for dinner, I sat him down and had him calculate how much it would cost per couple. With the meals, drinks, dessert and tip, $50 per couple. Ouch! Not to mention the corsage ($20 - another ouch) and the cost of the dance tickets. These young boys don't have the money to spend so much on one evening. (This assumes they already have a suit or tux to wear)

I gave him an option: "I'll make you a four-course Italian dinner for $10 per couple." He checked with his friends...they jumped at the chance.

Italian sausage soup, caesar salad, manicotti, crostini bread with spinach & artichoke dip, sparkling cider and creme brule with Andes mints. My mouth is watering just thinking about the deliciousness! Just to be clear, the dinner cost me more than $10 per couple, but not too much more. However, it was my contribution to the event AND I got a bonus: the chance to supervise the prom dinner. It was worth it!

The Boys...Aren't they handsome?

The Table...not too Shabby

The Servers

The Couple

And Another

The Pose

The Kiss...by Little Sis

The Farewell...Good Boy!

The prom dinner at home...it was quiet (well, except for little siblings everywhere), it was personal, it was catered to their situation, it was elegant, it was DELICIOUS (if I do say so myself) AND it was economical. That is the main lesson I want my son to learn. Creativity and time (and a fabulous Mom) equals money in your pocket!

Here's to a lesson hopefully learned as well as a Happy 17th Birthday to an equally fabulous son. Happy Birthday, sweetie! What a joy you are to the entire family! Loves and Kisses to you...

Cousin and Sister - Oakland, CA

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Corn, corn, the magical....motivator?

2011-08-18T08:24:00.000-06:00

Shucking corn...not my favorite thing. It's messy, stringy, and sticky. This is probably why we don't have corn on the cob very often (not to mention the sky-high price; we used to get it at 12 ears for $1.00. I did find it the other day at 4 for $1.00)

I took the bag out of the refrigerator last night in preparation for dinner. My seven year old daughter jumped up and down, begging to shuck the corn. You bet! She took it outside, recruited her younger siblings and in less than ten minutes, they had the job completed. Thank you, thank you! It is so fabulous when you don't have to do something you don't enjoy doing but has to be done. Did that make sense?

Who would have thought that shucking corn would make kids so happy and content?

Or not so. She was cut by the stem of an ear of corn!

Working together for a job well done!

This was the perfect project for three little people. Involve your children in family projects...they learn skills and you don't have to do as much. Perfect combination. Hey, they even cleaned up the mess! Corn: the magical...motivator?

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The Power of Perspective

2011-08-17T17:15:00.001-06:00

Carrying cement, enduring flies and heat, dirt & more dirt, stacking brick after brick,

the joy of the outhouse, cold showers, dust in the eyes...

PLUS

...joy through service, hugs and kisses from little children, delicious food, strengthened friendships, natural beauty, cultural education, practicing Spanish, new friends...
EQUALS

A life-changing experience for my children in Tequisquiapan, Mexico.

The MAJORITY of children in the US are extremely blessed! We have more than we possibly need and have comforts that most of the world does not know about or can only dream of. A humanitarian service trip (www.ffhe.org) was just the thing my children needed to have their eyes and hearts opened. It gave them perspective that can only come from visiting another land where abundance is not the norm. It provided them with an opportunity to give of their time, their funds, and their love to people who really need it. This experience taught them new skills AND an invaluable lesson: Happiness is not obtained by acquiring "Things".


Tequisquiapan, Mexico

Working on cement floors

Learning and building

One of the many stoves they constructed for the people

They donated backpacks (www.tetonsports.com) and school supplies to a school in Mexico

One of the recipients of a stove; now she doesn't have to cook over an open fire

These workers were so happy to receive a backpack!

The whole group with their security friends (they had Mexican police transportation everywhere they went)

Our wonderful Spanish Teacher with some of the kids

They had time for fun, too. All the girls wanted their picture with an American boy.

Time for shopping!

and Forest Frolicking

Enjoying the Outdoor Adventure

The final wrap up of the trip!

So long, Tequisquiapan...'till next year!

Yes, next year. My son loved it so much that he's saving up for next year's trip. (My daughter will be in college so no Mexico for her). A few things that struck me when they returned home...

1. "I want to go back next year!"

2. "The people have so little, but they're so happy!"

3. "The food was amazing!"

4. "We didn't really buy anything because we don't need anything!"

5. "We have sooooooo much!"

Ohhhh, the power of perspective! Fabulous things happen when children step outside of themselves to help another.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Practice Brings Improvement: A Reverence Reminder

2011-08-16T08:22:00.000-06:00

4-year old boys and reverence are not a natural combination. I feel like I've tried EVERYTHING to encourage a reverent attitude during prayer time and family scripture reading. His mind is too busy thinking of the next high jump over the coffee table and onto the couch. His body is too busy obeying the messages that his active mind sends it. He really is a delightful boy, full of hugs and kisses, imagination, play, and sweet smiles. Could we just sit still when our family is trying to be serious?

A thought came to mind a few days ago as the frustration started to build during family prayer.

If he's not reverent during the prayer,

have him practice reverence after the prayer.

OK...so I tried it. I sat him down on the couch and explained that during the prayer, it is time to be reverent. After the prayer, it is time to play. There is a time to be reverent and a time to play. Because he was not reverent at the proper time, he needs to practice being reverent during play time. I asked him to practice being reverent for two minutes, sitting on the couch with his arms folded, quiet and still. This about killed him. The rest of the house was busy and active and he wanted to be, too. I persisted. "The longer you fuss, the longer you'll sit still", I told him.

Three or four minutes later, after some fabulous quiet-practice, we talked about the proper behavior during prayer time. "If you can't be reverent during prayer, you'll need to practice being reverent after prayer."

The last few days have been dramatically different. Before our family prayer, I remind him about reverence time and I can see in his eyes that he remembers the reverence practice. I'm sure we'll have some more "practice times" in our future. But that's OK. Don't they say, "Practice makes Perfect"? However, I like to focus on, "Practice Brings Improvement". Consistency is key!

Yes, it would be great if he would be reverent because he loves Jesus and wants to to show that love. That lesson can sink in over time as his mind and body are quiet enough to feel it.

More to Come...but until then Stick-to-it!

Life After Chores?

2011-08-15T08:28:00.000-06:00

As he scrubs the toilet each week, he imagines a day without chores;

when he can roam the neighborhood with his friends, with no cares in the world.

With each towel there is to fold, she thinks of the book she'd rather be reading;

turning the pages of the romance mystery that is waiting for her on the table.

This is their lot in life...chores, chores, chores.

When will it end? Never! They'll be working and working forever!

I know my children think they are over worked and NOBODY else has to do any chores. They claim their friends don't have to do anything to help out in the home. Sorry! Mom can't do it alone, you live in this home too and need to help take care of it. Plus, you need to learn the skills necessary for when it's your turn to be in charge of a household!

This is one of my least favorite jobs...emptying the dishwasher. Oh, good, someone else gets to do it!

Chores. Are they a necessary evil or a blessing in disguise? I choose the latter. Assigning your children chores teaches time management, responsibility, a hard work ethic, encourages family unity, gives satisfaction for a job well done, teaches that privileges come with tasks completed, allows for learning and growing, and provides skills and knowledge that are invaluable.

She may not sweep perfectly but at least something's getting swept up!

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This system has been utilized in our home for almost twelve years. I developed this product to use with my children because I could not find a solution on the market that gave the flexibility to assign specific and relevant chores to each member of the family. The STIC Chore Charts provide a solution to not only organize the family responsibilities in a fun manner, but track completion as well. Chores may be rotated as frequently as fits your family's needs. I find that children REALLY learn how to do a job if they have that task for several weeks or months; however, our kids are always excited for "change the chores" day. Almost 100 colorful pieces are included that represent detailed jobs relating to most families. Blank pieces are included for customization to your household. See how this system can transform your home into productivity! Visit our website, www.sticktoitcharts.com.

Yes, your children may day dream about life after chores, but some day, they'll thank you for "raising a stick-to-it kid".

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The Perfect Game

2011-08-13T09:14:00.000-06:00

My daughter was complaining the other day about movie choices. She stated, "There are not any REALLY good movies to watch", almost implying that the only solution is to watch movies that are not good. She was talking about movies that are wholesome yet entertaining. We gave examples, but that didn't boost her confidence much.
The very next night, she came home to find the family just sitting down to watch The Perfect Game.

It is difficult to find movies that are enjoyable, yet fit in with your standards. You have to look for them and watch for them, but you can find them. This is one of them. When we do come across a movie that is REALLY worth watching, I have to share it with others!

This film is based on a true story about a group of boys in Monterey, Mexico that start up a baseball team with the help of a local that had worked as a towel boy for the St. Louis Cardinals. Using his former connections, he gets them into an American Little League tournament where they go on to win the Little League World Series; the pitcher pitches a perfect game, the only time in LL World Series history.

The movie is funny, inspiring, entertaining, clean, faith-filled, and fun. This is a definite MUST-SEE for your family. Nine little boys from Mexico tug at your heart as they learn the game, rally together, encourage each other, go forward with faith, deal with racism (takes place in the 50's), and absolutely astonish America.

There are a few instances of racist comments during the film. It is a good opportunity to talk with your children about how things used to be, how things are now, and how each of us are children of God, no matter where we're from or what we look like.

So, back to my daughter. She LOVED this movie. I said to her, "So, there are no good movies anymore, huh?" She exclaimed, "I love movies where people don't think someone can do something but they do it!"

Watch The Perfect Game with your family. It truly is close to a Perfect Film!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

One Thing at a Time

2011-08-13T07:58:00.000-06:00

Mom: "You need to clean your room."

Child: "I can't...it's too hard."

I've discovered over the years that if your child doesn't know how to do something, many times they use this excuse when in fact they should be saying, "I don't know how." They look at the mess and their little minds can't fathom how to clean it up. Break it down and help them understand the concept, One Thing at a Time. We use this frequently in our home and it really works.

Problem: The room is messy with dirty clothes, garbage, shoes, toys, unfolded blankets, and dress up clothes.

Solution: Teach your child to go pick up all of the dirty clothes, put them in the hamper, and report back when it's complete. After that task, instruct them to pick up all of the garbage and put it in the trash can, then report back. Next, put the shoes in the bucket and tell me when that's finished. Continue with this pattern until the room is cleaned up.

Breaking it down, step by step, teaches a systematic approach towards success. The overwhelming task that a child encounters becomes not-so-overwhelming. Reporting back reaffirms a sense of accomplishment and gives encouragement for the next to-do.

Showing children the way, or providing a solution, allows them to feel like the task is within their reach. And next time, hopefully the knowledge will "stick" and cleaning the bedroom won't be such an ordeal!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Negative Behavior? Try Positive Attention!

2011-08-11T11:22:00.001-06:00

Ever have one of those days where a certain child is pushing every button there is??? One of those days was last Sunday when my mother was over for dinner. (Happy Anniversary, Mom!!) I was having a particularly challenging afternoon with my ten year old and of course, she was witness to it. Do they plan to act up when Grandma is over? Later in the evening, when I checked my email, I found the following encouragement:

"Last night while trying to fall asleep I thought about the problems you seem to be having. My policy is to keep my mouth shut but I just thought about a couple of things that I have heard regarding troubled relationships. Being a middle child is difficult. You either stay invisible and don't make waves or you cry for attention. Any kind, even if it is negative, is better than nothing. Could he have some problems with needing attention? One of dad's favorite mantras was "don't sweat the small stuff" and we kind of used that when dealing with you kids. We would save the angst for big issues. I remember what I think was my last big problem with your brother. He was around 14 or 15. He blew up about something and I got mad at him and he ran down the stairs. I ran after him and just held him while we both cried. I can't remember the problem but I do remember still the power in just holding and loving this child. One other thought that I've heard is the most unlovable person is the one who needs the most love. And I think the touch is very powerful in helping with problems. In fact I think that couples are supposed to hold hands or have touch as they are discussing problems. He is a great kid. He is kind of an independent spirit and will probably continue to test you. But as he becomes a teenager it will be more difficult than it is now if your relationship is troubled. You are doing such a super job with your kids. Hang in there.

Love you, Mom

PS...I also forgot to say that maybe there is something about 10 year-old boys. I remember Dad and I one night lamenting about your brother (he was 10) and commenting that he was the child we were the most worried about. And he turned out great."

Mom is the type of Grandma who observes and prays. She rarely steps into her children's A-ffairs which has kept a healthy relationship with all her children, their spouses and grandchildren. However, this advice was timely and very appreciated. I have applied this principle (not that I hadn't thought about it before...it was just a great reminder) and have noticed a big difference.

When children are acting up and pushing those buttons, hug them, spend time with them, give them some extra attention and show interest in their interests. Yesterday, my son asked me to sew on the new patches that he received at the latest Cub Scout Pack Meeting. It wasn't a great time for this activity, but then, when is it? So, I dropped what I was doing and spent 45 minutes sewing patches, with plenty of needle pokes along the way. He sat with me the entire time, holding the remaining patches and watching. He felt loved and cared for, and the rest of the day was fabulous...no issues, power struggles, or frustration. He has also wanted to download a computer game for some time. We spent the time to get it setup for him so he could have that "privilege" when his responsibilities were taken care of. Over the last few days he has quickly completed his chores and other summertime activities, resulting in plenty of privileges during the day.

Thanks, Mom, for the reminder that negative behavior, most of the time, is a shout-out for some positive attention. Keep Stickin'-to-it, Mama!

Helping to Guide 26 Stick-to-it "Grand" Kids

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Wipe those Door Knobs!

2011-08-10T11:52:00.000-06:00

Toddlers can work! I have to remind myself of this because some times I find myself thinking, "She's too little" or "That's too hard for her." We recently changed the chore assignments in our home.

Sneak Peak: Stick-to-it Chore Chart System Coming Soon!

I realized in doing so, that our two year old didn't have her own chart. So, I quickly got to work and created her chart with her own jobs to do. She was soooo excited to have her own chart, just like big brothers and sisters. She hugged it. She looked at it. She practiced moving the pieces over. We hung it up on the bulletin board and explained what each piece meant. Quickly, she went to work. (Yes, I was kind of surprised)

One of the best jobs for a toddler is to wipe those door knobs! Give 'em a baby wipe and have them go to town on wiping the door knob on both sides of each door in the house.

This kept her happily entertained for twenty minutes AND no more sticky door knobs...one of my husband's pet peeves! Teach your little ones that privileges come with responsibility and hard work. Start when they're young; it will make your job a lot easier when they're older!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Turn "What can I do?" into Summertime Service

2011-08-09T09:14:00.000-06:00

Summer is NOT my favorite time of the year. Yes, I enjoy being with my children and having some fun family time. However, I do not like the "run wild and free" mentality that summer time tends to bring. I don't like unstructured days or unproductive children; staying up late and sleeping in until Noon. I certainly don't appreciate the expense that it brings...children thinking they need a snow cone every day or to be entertained with an elaborate and expensive activity all 90 days of summer. My schedule cannot handle it, nor can my pocketbook.

We have combated the stressful summer stigma by implementing a summer schedule for each child. They all have a list of activities/studies that need to take place before they are able to move on to summer enjoyment. This keeps their minds active, their hands busy, their body moving and Mom sane.
Examples include: handwriting practice, math facts, phonogram review, reading, exercise, chores, scouts (merit badges for my Boy Scout and activity badges for my Webelos), studying the driver's handbook, church studies, journal writing, piano practice, yard work, scholarship applications, thank you notes, babysitting, extra school classes, jobs, home maintenance, service, preparing for college, etc.

Obviously, not every child has the same items on his or her list. However, we use the summer to take care of things that are difficult to accomplish during the school year, to stay up-to-date with their studies, to learn new things and make progress on home and individual projects.

One activity I re-introduced to my children this summer is a service project for a humanitarian group called The Launfal Foundation. They send container loads of supplies to countries in Africa and Asia. A few years ago, my son's Eagle Project benefited this group with a humanitarian service day. One project included The Beaded Gecko.

2008: Over 100 Geckos were made (center box)

The Launfal Foundation sends loads of these to third world countries as toys for the children or for them to sell on the street. The supplies are very cheap and the children have enjoyed making these. If I ever hear the "I'm Bored" phrase, I tell them to get out the gecko supplies and go to work.

Each gecko takes about 10 minutes to complete. This guy is having fun creating competitions where the family votes to discover the "King Gecko".

Some of the geckos we've made this summer...

No, she's too young to do it on her own, however, she loves to string the beads!

The Finished Product

It feels good to use some free time to help another. Consider turning the "What can I do?" into summertime service!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

The Golden Rule - a Principle for Everyone

2011-08-08T08:38:00.001-06:00

My daughter (who has dish duty in our home right now) went on a camping trip for two days last week. This equates to either Mom doing the dishes or assigning somebody else to do them. I did them once. However, when I saw this the morning before she returned home...

... I admit, I was tempted to leave them for her to do. Then I thought of the following talk: Finding Joy through Loving Service. One quote I especially like is,

"Charity begins at home. The single most important principle that should govern every home is to practice the Golden Rule—the Lord’s admonition that “all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them." M. Russell Ballard

If I were returning home from a camping trip, would I want to come home to a sink full of dirty dishes? No!!! So, I asked for volunteers and we went to work. Interestingly, the "volunteers" ended up being my two youngest, 2 and 4.

First Task: Empty the Dishwasher
I put this guy to work on putting the silverware away. I was a little nervous when I saw his smile of delight in seeing sharp kitchen knives in the utensil basket. I brought the knife block to him. (This brought back memories of my younger brother threatening me with a sharp knife when we were little. However, he is a normal and wonderful father now!) This presented the opportunity to reinforce knife safety.

Second Task: Rinse the Dishes
Four year old boys are great scrubbers! They really get into it, at least this boy does. I gave him all of the messy bowls and pans, filled them with soap and water and let him go to town. NOTE: He is in his PJ's - Perfect! He has to change out of them anyway so it doesn't matter if they get all wet. (I did try to minimize the water mess)

Next Task: Load the Dishwasher
This is where I put little lady in the mix. She was amazing at putting the silverware in the dishwasher; very methodical and organized. However, I handled the sharp knives!

Last Task:Finishing up
A two year old is the perfect person to put in the soap, close the soap door, close the main door and push the button.

She didn't stop there. She had to hang up the cloth to dry but it had to be just right. She spent almost ten minutes making sure both ends were even!

Serving our children is an important part of being a mother. I know we do this every day, but looking for ways to make their lives a little easier is an important part, too. The Golden Rule - it applies to us parents as well.

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Make it Happen!

2011-08-07T11:08:00.000-06:00

2007:

"A 20th anniversary trip in 5 years? How will we ever make that happen?"

Niagara Falls: June, 2011

We made it happen!!!

Part of raising Stick-to-it Kids is getting away once in a while to focus on the relationship between husband and wife. What a blessing it was for us to go on an early 20th anniversary trip to the East Coast. Four years ago, I didn't think it could happen. However, if you really want to do something, you CAN do it with planning, preparation and patience as your best friends.

For four years we saved up our American Express points. We allowed them to accumulate, not touching them for anything else. We were able to go on our trip at zero cost to us. Yes, waiting four years was difficult, but with eight children and a tight budget, it was very satisfying to have a plan, "stick" to the plan, and reap the benefits of being patient.

Boston Area:


The North Bridge - Concord, MA - Where the "Shot Heard Round the World" Occured

Orchard House - Louisa May Alcott Home "Little Women"

Battle Green - Lexington, MA

Boston, MA LDS Temple

Love the Steeple!

The Timer on our Camera came in VERY Handy!

Plymouth, MA - The Mayflower II

Our Pilgrim Friend

Our REAL friend and Neighbor across the Street - we had to run into each other in Boston to see her!

Plymouth Rock is in Here. So cool!

We visited a good friend from high school and her sweet family!

Taking the Ferry to Martha's Vineyard!

Falmouth, MA - Breakfast on the Veranda at the Captain's Manor

The Beginning of our walk on the Freedom Trail

Love Benjamin Franklin!

Awesome night at the Boston Pops - in Honor of my Daddy!

New York City Area:

We LOVED Mary Poppins!

We had to ride the Toys R Us Ferris Wheel - we got the Mystery Machine car!!

Sam took my picture with Scooby. Didn't he do a good job?

Manhattan, NY LDS Temple

My Sister met us here!!!

Wicked was so awesome!! This is the only picture we took.

The Apple Store - a definite stop for Sam!

New York City Skyline - View from Liberty Island

Lady Liberty - Gorgeous! We took the audio tour which was fabulous...

...and the Audio Tour at Ellis Island, too.

Sam found his Panzerotti at an authentic Italian Restaurant in the City.

We stayed with my sister's family while in New York City. We had such a great time with them!!

Walking on the Brooklyn Bridge

Palmyra, NY:

The Erie Canal - Palmyra Port

Joseph Smith Log Cabin on the Smith Family Farm

Par for Sam's personality, he climbed down into the cellar where no man (visitor) had gone before.

The Palymra, NY LDS Temple - on the Smith Family Farm

The Smith Family Frame Home

Original Bricks in the Frame Home where the Plates were Hidden under

We attended a session at the Palmyra, NY LDS Temple

We really enjoyed our tour of the Peter Whitmer Home and Visitor's Center

The Moroni Statue at the top of the Hill Cumorah

The view from the top was amazing!

Not an official tour site but very awesome to visit.

We woke up early one morning to enjoy the Sacred Grove

One of the very BEST parts of the trip!

Inside the Grandin Print Shop

Our last stop in Palmyra

Niagara Falls, NY:

Simply Breathtaking!

Cave of the Winds - below the Falls

Sam on the Hurricane Deck

Horseshoe Falls - View from Maid of the Mist

Enjoying the Maid of the Mist Tour

The Niagara River above the Falls

So, that is our trip. Now, we're planning, preparing and being patient for the next one. Yes, several years down the road, but we can make it happen, again!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!

Leave the "Baby" at Home (Sorry, Sweetie!)

2011-08-06T09:50:00.006-06:00

The hike was steep; the day was hot. The big kids were full of energy; I was not.

The "baby" was crying, tired of walking. I wanted to cry, tired of carrying.

I had to go on...couldn't stop now. The end was in sight but how, oh, how

Will I make it up this hill with a babe on my back?;

I thought she would walk and left home the day-pack.

Big kids stayed home so why oh why, did I not leave her home for her to cry?

"It too sunny" (No, I didn't make a typo)

Purpose of this post: To remind myself that it's

OK to leave people home if the situation is

not conducive to the child.

It was supposed to be a nice little hike with my sisters and their children. Half way up baby petered out and had to be carried. I thought she would walk (she's nearly three - far from a baby) and thought to myself before we left home, "Oh, she'll love being outside by the water and with her cousins." No, no. She was miserable and I was miserable. I had options before we left; I just didn't think about it. Dad and two of my teens were home. Why didn't I leave her with them? "Oh, she'll cry when we leave", I thought. "She'll have so much fun", I declared. Well, no matter the reason, I've learned a lesson!

Even if you don't make the best choice, make the best of the situation! We still had fun and that is what counts!

They're all excited to begin!

Climbing rocky hills...what could be more fun?

Sliding down rocky hills could be more fun!

Always has to pose

Our Destination: Battle Creek Falls

She's happy now: We made it to the top and there's food to eat!

More than happy to pose on the way DOWN.

Back to the Trail Head. We made it!

Experiences for children are fabulous. However, sometimes a fabulous experience for Mom is a nice thing, too! Trust me, I'll remember that mantra for next time!

More to Come...but until then, Stick-to-it!